What Kind of Mate Are You?

“Love is what makes two people sit in the middle of a bench when there is plenty of room at both ends.” – Anonymous

Have you ever thought about why you act the way you do in a relationship?  Do you think it’s just chance?  Do you see patterns emerge in your behavior?  I’ve observed patterns in my behavior – some I’m more than happy to own, others make me cringe. Continue reading

Who We Are First and Second

Now that we know our MBTI type (if you don’t know yet, please take this type test and remember your letters), we can explore further how our personality unfolds; how we interact, why we react the way we do.

The P or J at the end of our type combined with the E or I at the beginning tells us whether we use the second or the third letter as our primary personality function.  Clear as pea soup, right?

Ok, let’s unravel the mystery.  Find your letters below: Continue reading

Creativity

How does creativity happen?

Have you ever had inspirational moments where something new and different just pops out?  You can’t explain the process – it just happens!

“If play expires in itself without creating anything durable and vital, it is only play, but in the other case it is called creative work.  Out of a playful movement of elements whose interrelations are not immediately apparent, patterns arise which an observant and critical intellect can only evaluate afterward.  The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect, but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity.  The creative mind plays with the object it loves.” — C.G. Jung Continue reading

Perceiving vs. Judging

This is the last or fourth set of MBTI letters, but definitely not the least.  This letter determines how we deal with the outside world.  It characterizes our expectations of others and our visible behaviors.  It influences how others see us!

If you don’t know your type, take this type test and remember your letters!  Your fourth letter will be either a J or a P. Continue reading

Thinking vs. Feeling

Ever wonder why you act the way you do; why you respond in a certain way to life situations?

The rational functions, Thinking (T) and Feeling (F), determine how we act (with the intention of keeping our life manageable and under control – we hope).  By compiling reams and reams of  memories and data from past experiences, we know how to act in the present situation.   We’re able to predict outcomes to incoming data and then react in the way that is uniform with our personality type.   (If you don’t know yet what your MBTI type is, please visit the post from March 24, 2009 and then read on.)

So, what, you may ask, are the differences? Continue reading

Personality Type and Grief

“I thought of the stern Victorian determination to keep death in mind, the uncompromising tombstones: Remember, pilgrim, as you pass by, As you are now so once was I; As I am now so you will be…

Now death is uncool, old-fashioned.  To my mind the defining characteristic of our era is spin, everything tailored to vanishing point by market research, brands and bands manufactured to precise specifications; we are so used to things transmuting into whatever we would like them to be that it comes as a profound outrage to encounter death, stubbornly unspinnable, only and immutably itself.”

– Tana French In The Woods

Death truly is the only thing in life that touches each of us – there’s no way to avoid it.  It may appear abruptly with no announcement, or it may linger on the doorstep indefinitely before entering and destroying the peace in our house.  However it may enter our lives, it’s a rude interruption.  And especially in today’s world.  We’ve lost a lot of our coping skills as Tana French so eloquently states.  We’re often insulated from death; nursing homes, hospitals, no longer several generations in one home, less infant and childhood death.  Despite all that, we will encounter death, and if we don’t deal with it in a mature manner, grief can be debilitating. Continue reading

Sensation vs. Intuition

The first set of letters in Personality Type Categories was presented in the Introvert vs. Extrovert post from April 18, 2010.  The second set of letters: S vs. N define a totally different personal preference.  These letters illustrate how we perceive our direct surroundings, hence they are called the Perceiving functions.

We can only use one or the other at any given moment.  They are in conflict with one another.  As individuals we have a tendency to prefer one function over another: Sensation (S from now on) vs. Intuition (N from now on).

To stereotype these, we would assume an S type is very here and now and an N type has his head in the clouds.  But… that is way too simple of an explanation.  The waters run much deeper! Continue reading